Marriage is one of the passage of life, from time to time we get invited for church weddings. We see our relatives and friends tying the knot and we become excited for them.
Before people get married they usually date, when dating the couple get to learn more about each other. After this period, the couples now set a day that they will officially walk down the aisle.
It is advisable for couples to go for counselling before they get married. Women and men have different roles in marriage, during this counselling period, these are the things they are taught. They are taught some of the problems that couples might go through when married and how to solve them. The counselling is mostly done by church leaders and also the brides and grooms relatives.
However, as people continue with their marriage life, they reach a point where they start losing interest in their partners. The husband and the wife start to prefer spending time away from each other. At such situations it is normal to see couples filing for divorce.
Divorce should not close a couples mind unless where it doesn’t look like they will ever get back to how they used to be. It is advisable to seek the services of a marriage counselor. The couple can choose to go for counselling sessions together but if they are not comfortable, they choose to do it individually.
The marriage counselor usually use different techniques when trying to solve conflict between couples. The therapist will remind you all the good times you shared as a couple, while you were dating and when the relationship was new. Study has shown that couples going through difficult situation in their lives are likely to start drifting away from each other.
When people get married their main goal is usually happiness, companionship, satisfaction and support, when it reaches a point where those needs are not being meet, disputes between the couple will start to rise. The aim of the whole going to a marriage counsellor is to try and get back to times when the couple was happy.
Most marriage counselors have published their own books about marriage and how you can have a fulfilling marriage. As part of the marriage counselling, couples are advised to read certain books that are recommended by the therapist. There are also many such books on the internet, they are ideal for people in a relationship, newly wed and anyone who is married.
After marriage, the next step for most couples is to start having babies. Most couples have very busy schedules, they cannot afford to be around their kids all the time, hence most couples end up hiring a nanny to look after the babies. When looking for a babysitter before hiring one, it is advisable to do a background check on them.